Pre-forgiven.
Pre-forgiven.
In my life, everyone is. Because I believe that everyone is brought to their actions by their circumstances, their actions are inevitable. Does the fact that I pre-forgive everyone mean that I am a fatalist? A determinist? A cynic? Does it mean that I despair? Or is it indicating that I am a dewy-eyed optimist?
Bestowing blanket absolution in advance certainly mellows me out. Given I have to interact with people in order to function in my culture, my default setting is to be open to everyone until they hurt me, then I shut down to an extent compatible with their demonstrated ability to hurt me. I don't (can't?) blame them for causing me pain because I know that I am laying myself open to abuse by defaulting to trust.
To trust everyone, yet pre-forgive them is really to trust no-one. In a way, it's offensive that I presume that people are inevitably flawed, yet it's insane not to.
In my life, everyone is. Because I believe that everyone is brought to their actions by their circumstances, their actions are inevitable. Does the fact that I pre-forgive everyone mean that I am a fatalist? A determinist? A cynic? Does it mean that I despair? Or is it indicating that I am a dewy-eyed optimist?
Bestowing blanket absolution in advance certainly mellows me out. Given I have to interact with people in order to function in my culture, my default setting is to be open to everyone until they hurt me, then I shut down to an extent compatible with their demonstrated ability to hurt me. I don't (can't?) blame them for causing me pain because I know that I am laying myself open to abuse by defaulting to trust.
To trust everyone, yet pre-forgive them is really to trust no-one. In a way, it's offensive that I presume that people are inevitably flawed, yet it's insane not to.
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